They constantly look for growth
They know that the only thing that stands between them and their success are their micro-movements. Consequently, they keep taking small steps. They keep moving, even if it is slow. Whatever they do, they do no stop growing and improving who they are.
They treat themselves well
In modern day society women are bombarded with the message that they just aren’t good enough unless they subscribe to a horde of mindless advertising standards. Strong women know who they are.
Even though they may not always set out loving themselves at first, they learn along the way that by paying attention to and getting to know themselves really well, they discover all sorts of secret strengths and superpowers they would never have guessed they had.
They learn to trust their own judgment. As in any relationship that is built on trust, their relationship with themselves grows stronger as time passes.
They never settle for less than they deserve
They know that you get what you settle for. This lesson usually takes a little while to hit home during their early 20s, but once they grasp the magnitude of its meaning, they realize that settling for less is such a waste of precious time. They save themselves a whole load of heartache and time by aiming higher.
They eliminate toxic people from their lives actively
This includes people who gossip, naysayers and drama queens. Learning to implement healthy boundaries is a huge part of living a life free of emotional baggage.
They forgive, but never forget
They work at forgiveness constantly. They know that forgiveness is not a gift that you give your perpetrator or the person who hurt you, but it is rather a gift to themselves.
They know that forgiveness is the key you need to free themselves from the prison of anger. Without this, they remain captive, bitter and twisted. This leads to unhappiness. They learn from their mistakes by not making them more than twice.
They believe what they do is powerful, then that becomes real
They feel a strong motivation to achieve their goals. They don’t waste their time on outcomes they do not believe in. It has to make sense for them to pursue a certain avenue.
They don’t worry much about what others think
They avoid the comparison game. They know their happiness is dependent on this. They don’t ask for permission as they realize they have to take responsibility for their own choices. They do not blame people for their mistakes.
This makes the opinions of those who don’t have the necessary expertise needed to guide any particular process obsolete. One should only really share opinions if an invitation to do so is given.
They accept themselves for who they are
They realize that at the end of the day life is too short and too fabulous to sit around feeling sorry for who they are not. They find mentors who they can learn from and mold themselves to their own expectations.
They know they aren’t perfect, but that’s alright
They accept that nobody is perfect. Women who have the power to accept themselves (the good and bad)are highly adaptive. They know that ultimately adapting allows them to live a truly exceptional life.
They respect themselves and won’t do anything that is unfair to themselves
They are more aware of their own worth than women who haven’t reached this stage. The path to discovering their real worth is different for every woman and it only ever becomes really evident once she has had her back to the wall.
Many women who are known to be strong will tell you that they weren’t necessarily always that way. They usually only discover their true strength in really difficult situations. Usually, after they have no tears left to cry and nowhere left to turn, other than towards themselves. That is when the magic starts happening.
They build strong personal support systems
Often strong women weave really strong webs of interpersonal relationships between each other that become phenomenal personal support systems. This means that most solutions are a phone call away because they have each other’s backs. Sometimes the greatest strength comes in recognizing that you cannot do things alone.
By Nick Darlington